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Devils Doorbell: Fem Speed Dating & Play Party

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Devils Doorbell: Speed Dating & Play Party

Date: Second Tuesdays

Devils Doorbell is femme-centered, queer-friendly, speed dating & dance event for gender expansive folks all across the spectrum. For those who are looking to flirt, connect, and explore romantic or kinky chemistry with others who get it. Everyone here came with curiosity, openness, and the desire to meet others outside the cisnormative binary.
This space is explicitly gender inclusive—welcoming to trans, nonbinary, genderqueer, genderfluid, intersex, agender, butch, femme, masc, softboi, stud, dyke, and anyone else who doesn’t identify as a cis man.
Cis men: this event is not for you. You will not be admitted. No you may not “just pretend” and get by the door. You must present as non-cis to as not to be disruptive to the spirit of the event.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Tired of coffee dates and “gal pal” vibes when you’re craving something more?
Worried about misreading signals—or ruining a friendship—just because you want to explore something deeper, sexier, or more romantic?
You’re not alone. It can be confusing, awkward, even emotionally draining.

Let Sanctuary help make it easier.

Whether you’ve always been into queer connections or you’re newly exploring, whether you’re looking for romance, hookups, or community—this is a space to show up authentically and be seen.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Doors: 7 p.m.
Cost: $10 cash / $12 card

What to expect:
• A welcoming, affirming environment
• 3-minute rounds guided by fun, kinky icebreaker questions
• Couples are welcome (please rotate individually for the game)
• A chance to meet new people and maybe leave with a spark—or at least a few new queer friends

After speed dating, you can mingle with your new friends, use the playrooms or dance to our DJ

 

 

 

 

 

About Lucky:
Lucky is a queer/pan jack of many trades, master of some, and emcee who curates playful, affirming spaces for the gender expansive community. They also host GET LUCKY on first Tuesdays—a variety show featuring karaoke, clowns, kink, aerial acts, and more.

Sanctuary is 21+, LGBTQ+, ADA, anti-racism, and celebrates diversity. Enter on Ninth.

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