Navigating Jealousy in Polyamory

Sanctuary Club, 33 Northwest 9th Avenue, Portland, Oregon
March 9th, 5-7 PM PST
PLA members: Free entry
Non-members: $10 with a ticket link: TIX: https://forbiddentickets.com/events/portland-leather-alliance/ccc598c5ca

Jealousy is a natural emotion that profoundly impacts relationships with ourselves and others and it is one of the most common topics we spend time unpacking in ENM/polyamory. Left unaddressed, it can erode trust, breed resentment, and harm mental well-being. However, when we learn to understand and navigate it, jealousy can be a gateway to deeper self-awareness and a springboard to intimacy with our partners.

Although jealousy is often seen as a negative, uncomfortable emotion, it’s something nearly everyone will experience. Mononormative culture often teaches us that jealousy is something that we fix by asking our partners to change – don’t be friends with your ex, don’t wear that hot outfit, don’t follow that model on social media – but this creates traps, not trust, and does nothing to heal our own insecurities.

In ENM/polyamorous culture, we encourage confronting jealousy head-on and skillfully. There is absolutely hope for lessening the impact of jealousy, from the initial sting to the subsequent fear & rumination.

Are you ready to learn to make peace with the “green-eyed monster?”

In this workshop, you will:

• Learn the myths, facts, and most common causes of jealousy

• Learn ways that unhealthy coping patterns can feed mistrust and shrink your world

• Learn and practice healthy strategies for navigating jealousy and expanding your heart including:

  • Reflective practices to identify when and why we might be feeling jealous

  • Tools for communicating and connecting with partners

  • Pathways to self-soothe and strengthen self-esteem

• Connect deeper with yourself and the ENM/Polyamorous community through sharing stories about our journey through jealousy.

This is a safe, non-judgmental space where people of all genders, cultures, and sexual preferences will be respected and supported. This is also a brave space that values risk, growth, connection, and vulnerability.

Educator Bio

Christina B. Dynamite (she/her) is a vibrant Transformative Life Coach, Educator, Artist, and Mental Health Registered Nurse who fiercely believes that being authentically yourself and kicking shame in the teeth are non-negotiables for a meaningful life. She charged full steam into polyamory and kink in NYC in the 1990s, but is living proof that marrying a woman does not cure being an awkward bisexual queerdo. Dynamite is a member of PDX Bad Girls (since 2018), Dykes on Bikes (since 2020), and Sex Positive Portland (since 2024). She coaches individuals and groups and facilitates workshops and retreats on topics related to mental health and sex positivity. Dynamite also occasionally performs on stage to kindle courage, chaotic exploration, and catharsis.

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Accessibility and Transportation Information for Sanctuary Club

• Location: 33 Northwest 9th Avenue, Portland, Oregon

• Entrance: On NW 9th Avenue, behind the pink door

• Accessibility: Elevator and stairs available; wheelchair-accessible doors; all-gender ADA-compliant restroom

• Parking: Paid parking lot adjacent to the venue

• Public Transit: Nearby bus stops at NW Glisan & 9th and NW Everett & 9th. Bus lines 4-Fessenden, 8-Jackson Park/NE 15th, and 77-Broadway/Halsey serve these stops.